Marriage is an Institute created by the creator. He designed the state of institution of marriage as the glue that binds a family and provides a safe place to raise children. His goal as stated in Early scripture is to multiply and fill the earth. He created people to reproduce. In order to do so successfully, he designed the family. And the family starts with marriage.
But something has gone horrible wrong with this foundational truth. As with most truths, the enemy has slowly morphed the simplicity of the creator into something that appeals to the selfish nature of man. Marriage has been fundamentally redefined, to destroy God's family structure.
No, I am not referring directly to gay marriage. That is a symptom, not a problem. We may touch on this later.
I refer to the institution of marriage. Simply put, marriage is not something that a government, nor society can define. Marriage is not something that you decide to do and the state "blesses" it to make it official. The notion that the state or society controls the definition of marriage Is the problem.
So let's go back to the beginning. What exactly is marriage in God's eyes, how did the creator design this as the basis of a family? Simple. Marriage is what happens at the act of sex. Period.
In the old testament times, we see the model that God created, fundamentally different from marriage today in America. Back then a man and woman had sex, And they were married in God's eyes. The "wedding" or ceremony was then a party to celebrate what had happened already, the act of marriage. If the ceremony came first, the marriage was not "consumated" or complete until sex took place. You see, marriage does not begin when someone says "I now pronounce you man and wife", no.... Marriage takes place when 2 people have sex.
Think about this, what would happen in society if marriage was defined as beginning at the act of sex? Sex before marriage no longer exists! Any act of sex legally binds the man to keep the woman as his wife, forever. The price of sex for him is support and companionship to her, for the rest of his life. That would change everything, for the better. The problem with "abstinatance" movement today is that it isn't based on truth of scripture. You shouldn't wait until marriage to present yourself pure. You in fact always wait until marriage because marriage happens at sex!
This is true in how we are. During the act of sex, two become one. This happens on all levels.
Physically two become one in a child, the result of sex. One child created from the two genetic pools of mom and dad. But also two become one with each other, meaning a transfer of physical life between two. Microbes of all types transfer between the sexual participants and whatever one has, the other has. For better or for worse. The two have become one.
Emotionally there is a bond created with a single act of sex. Once it happens, the two will forever be closer, more likely to repeat, more open to admit" we already did it once... ". There is a closeness that lasts forever, but can be deepened or lessened over time. Men and women both think about those they have had sex with differently than those they haven't. This is the reason we call it" making love" because the act of sex does create the feelings of love.
Spiritually two become one in God's eyes. He expects the two to stay together and form a family from a single act of sex onward. He sees the two as one with all the moral, spiritual, and legal obligations that accompany it. This is obvious with a read through the law of moses concerning sex and marriage.
So bottom line, sex IS marriage. If the couple chooses to have the state recognize them as married for financial benefit, fine. But regardless, they are married once they have sex. Simple, and powerful. The notion that the government, society, people, control and define marriage is a usurping of God's purpose and intent. We didn't create it, so we can't change it.
Which is why gay marriage is invalid... Because two of the same sex can not mate for reproduction as God intended, therefore can't be "married". Two of the same gender having sexual relations is prohibited clearly in the Bible, meaning God will not recognize those two as married. The state may, that's up to them. But it isn't a true marriage because only God recognizes marriage. Let the state recognize who it wants as "one" but don't call it a marriage.
In fact the only God approved alternative to the one man one woman marriage is polygamy. One man, multiple women. Each unmarried woman that a man has sex with, he is obligated to from that moment on. This is clear in scripture as ordained by god. So reality is, the world has twisted God's design so that the only alternative he approves of is rejected by man, and the only alternatives man approves of is not recognized by god.
So it's simple. Marriage is when man and unmarried woman have sexual relations, and God expects them to then stay together and make a family. He is responsible for her for life. He may do this multiple times, but binds himself to each woman. The government has zero say in this. It's God's domain, not man's.
If we could return to this simple definition, society would prosper, sex outside of marriage would lessen, along with it the damage and trauma of it. Sex would become beautiful and meaningful as the basis of a family, instead of a selfish act of recreation. Sex is beautiful, and the basis of life on earth. Dig into the scriptures and you will see that what we have today is not only twisted, but exactly opposite of what God intended. Only a return to the creators design will fix society.
