Love is at the heart of all human experience. But what is true love?
True love is not what the common notion says it is. True love had nothing to do with romance, nothing to do with words or feelings. It is not an emotion at all.
True love is simply a commitment to do what is best for the other person regardless of the pain it might cause us, and expect nothing in return.
Read that again. Let it sink in.
Love is an action. It hurts the lover to help the one loved, but the lover rejoices in being able to provide for the loved. It is a sacrifice.
Love is measured not by feelings nor words, it is measured by the level of sacrifice a lover is willing to provide to the one loved, expecting nothing in return.
Love creates feelings of love in the one loved. Feelings of gratitude, trust, comfort, and a desire to commit to the one loving. The acts of love a lover does is what creates feelings of love.
Cheap love, fake love, is when one person matters the art of creating those feelings in another with no sacrifice, no commitment. That is just a lie. It is not love, it is self centered manipulation. And it happens all the time. It seems in the one that falsely feels loved being hurt deeply.
Feelings can never be trusted. Look beneath the feelings and see the sacrifice, the attitude of gifting that sacrifice freely, to see love. Without sacrifice there is no love.
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